Motherhood and Identity Loss

No one talks enough about how becoming a mother can feel like losing parts of yourself.
Maybe your creativity, friendships, confidence, or body feel distant.
You’re still you, but parts have gone quiet.

This isn’t about regret. It’s about grief, the quiet, unspoken kind.
Grief for the freedom you once had.
Grief for the version of you who wasn’t always thinking ten steps ahead for someone else.
Grief for spontaneity, rest, even boredom.

Motherhood Can Be Beautiful and Overwhelming

You can love your child deeply and miss your old self.
You can be grateful and exhausted, fulfilled and unseen, all at once.
These truths don’t cancel each other out. They live side by side.
But when we don't acknowledge them, shame grows in the silence.

The Pressure to Be "Everything"

There’s a cultural pressure to lose yourself in motherhood, to be endlessly selfless, constantly available, and grateful at all times.
This can leave little space for your own needs, identity, or growth.
It’s no wonder so many women say, “I don’t feel like me anymore.”

Therapy Is a Place to Remember Yourself

Therapy can help you:
– Reconnect with parts of yourself that feel forgotten
– Make sense of the emotional rollercoaster of parenting
– Carve out space to explore who you are now
– Set boundaries that honour your wellbeing alongside your child’s
– Process any sadness, resentment, or confusion without guilt

You’re still in there—under the routines, the tiredness, the expectations.
You haven’t disappeared. You’ve been evolving.

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🌀 Gentle Question:
What part of yourself are you missing most lately? What might it need from you to come back to life, even just a little?

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